Growing up too fast....

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Linda Grace Sibadogil Copley but you will always be Ti-Ti to me


We came to visit you December 12th thru 14th, 2014. I know you did not feel good. You were uncomfortable in the bed and you fought tooth and nail to not be bed bound but your arms and legs could not sustain you any longer. I will never regret being able to be by your bedside. Just 3 short days later you are now unresponsive but with still such a strong will to live. You told me in July that you were afraid to die. You told me this past weekend that you wanted to keep fighting. You are a fighter indeed and so strong! I cant even find the words to tell you how much I love you. My heart is completely broken. I told you then and I'll say it now over and over how special you are to me and  how much I love you. You are 76 years young and cancer got the best of you. Even though you were weak, could barley talk and keep your eyes open, you still answered a few questions I asked you. You still smiled, even chuckled a few times and played balloon toss with the girls while in the bed. You always read this blog and kept up with the girls, me and our lives and I love you for that. You called often, you came to visit at least a couple times a year, you always brought me egg rolls and boiled peanuts and we would stay up and roll 100+ egg rolls at night when you'd come. I could tell you anything. You were non judgemental, you always took my side and you made me feel  as if you were my biggest fan. When I was little you carried me, you played with me and as soon as I could walk you said I would run across the field in Sabah to wait till you got out of teaching class. 
You never missed a birthday-always sent a card. You were at my graduation, my wedding and soon after the girls were born you came to visit. You will never know just how much you impacted my life and I am forever grateful to you. You are my Ti Ti and I'll always like to think I was your favorite!:)

I love you Ti Ti and will miss you so much. 

Ti Ti
Name: Linda Grace Sibadogil Copley
Born: December 24, 1937
Nationality: Indonesian
Born in Sabah Malaysia
Came from a Family of 11
You were #6 of nine siblings Brothers:4 Sisters:5
Favorite Color: RED
Favorite Verse: My grace is sufficient for you
Favorite Food: Noodles
Fav. American Food: KFC ;)
No embarrassing moments, you said. Yeah right;)
Moved to the USA in 1980
Married: William Copley in 1983 at Thatcher Hall at SAU, Collegedale, Tn. I was your flower girl
What did you like about Uncle Bill: "He was Patient. I was always hyper. I liked how laid back he was"
First Kiss at 44 years old was to Uncle Bill in 1982 at  summer camp
Favorite Place to Travel and why: CHINA because of the culture
What you like to do in your spare time: Play the piano which you taught yourself
Taught yourself how to roll egg rolls
You love to flower but do not like gardening
Favorite Vegetable: Eggplant
One thing people might not know about you: "I am not a hopeless romantic. Neither was Uncle Bill and I liked that"
Favorite Dessert: Coconut Ice Cream
Favorite Holiday: Christmas
Favorite Candy: " I am not much of  a sweet tooth"
Favorite Snack: Boiled Peanuts
Favorite Fruit: Mango...just like me
My Last words to you: "Dont be afraid. I love you"

Written by my brother Stephen Conner Thurmond
"My first memories of life are running around barefoot in Sabah, East Malaysia... climbing star-fruit trees and eating them till they literally removed the enamel from my teeth (leaving me with a mouthful of silver caps). Gorging on the "Stevie" banana stalk hanging under our front porch. Playing in the daily downpour of a tropical climate and bottle feeding a pet black bear named Madu that dad brought home from one of his missionary excursions. Yes, my early life was truly a magical one similar to Disney's Jungle Book...sans the loin cloth.
One of the pillars of this time in my life was a sweet lady named Linda Sibadogil who we called Ti-Ti. She helped my mother, who had been transplanted to the other side of the globe with two toddlers and one on the way, raise LaraAmber and me. My mother is superwoman, as some of you know, but I think she may have left her mind in Sabah had it not been for Ti-Ti's help.
After a painful battle with cancer, Ti-Ti passed away this morning. My sister, Amber (whom Ti-Ti helped raise from birth) was very close to her and has written a heartfelt tribute to her below.
Ti-Ti, you were part of the family and one of the sweetest, most soft-spoken people I've had the pleasure of knowing. You will be missed and thought of often as your gentle laugh still rings in my ears. Thank you for teaching Amber how to make your legendary egg-rolls...she does them proper and pays homage to you with each batch."

Venice Catherine Sweet Thurmon: Grandmother



Its no fun making these posts but going thru all the photos and memories makes me realize just how fortunate we are to be a part of and loved by such wonderful people.
Grandmother:
You helped me hide in the blueberry bush so I wouldnt have to ride the horse
You let me watch a baby calf being born
You had soft mints in the freezer at Christmas time
We played Button Button on the steps at the barn house
You taught me how to shell peas
The red coat on the fence told Grandad it was time for dinner
You always got me bubble gum from the bank in Dyersburg
You taught me how to make your AMAZING granola
You showed me a very secret tip when making bread
You would giggle till you had tears in your eyes
You would dance arm and arm, round and round to Davy Crockett with me
You always had pretty, matching spring colors on that always looked good with your white hair
You were an amazing cook
You never spanked me
You were just 56 days shy of being 99 years old
You loved ONE man 78 years-Inspirational
You would let me hide in your closet at the farm house to spy on people in the living room thru the vent
You let me play dress up with your silk night gowns
You gave me $ for clothes when I started to work at the bank. Said, "I needed to dress professional"
You help with my schooling which allowed me to have a 4 year degree and no school loans ( i worked too)
You loved it when I rubbed your feet and put lotion on them
The smell of Oil of Olay reminds me of you
You would always let me pull the lose skin from your tiny hands. You said it was because you were old and I said it was soft.
People use to say I looked like you and I always took it as a compliment
You loved me and I loved you back so much
You were a lady with class
You were the best. 
I love you and will miss you so much!